Self Sabotage and The Pain Teacher - How To Build A Better Life

I was working with a client once. He was in severe emotional and mental pain.....and he didn't like it. Oddly enough, running away from pain only gets you more pain. Here's why. In our North American culture of "every second of life is supposed to be fun and entertaining" pain is advertised as a goblin when really it's a guardian. As my client grew up in North America, he never realized that he was constantly groomed psychologically (via very simple behavior modification techniques) to believe pain meant he was broken and defective. Due to this defective label he was forced to wear (when nothing was wrong with him whatsoever), he was psychologically weakened to the point where he couldn't rise up anywhere close to his full potential. The system we all live within is designed to dull our shine, trim our tall poppy and break our ability to succeed.

All government public schools are involved in this psychological programming, to make people believe pain is a goblin that must be destroyed upon arrival. This is why all government elementary schools have removed the failing of children. Even if a child doesn't deserve to graduate to the next grade, they are forced ahead anyway. Sport's events, where children are rightly ranked according to their athletic performance, are now banned. Every kid gets a ribbon in a race, even if they finished last. In California (the woke left epicenter of destruction on the planet, along with NY City) they've made the grades D, E and F....illegal, Why? Because telling someone they need to improve and having them rise up to meet an adverse situation/hard challenge is what the corrupt government really wants to get rid of.

The pain (the goblin) of failing isn't what the corrupt wants to stop. What the invented government is really trying to get rid of....is the evolution that always manifests in a person's life when they're placed under pressure, conflict, challenge or pain. You need pressure, conflict and pain to mature, individuate and evolve. You need challenges for you to find your gifts. Governments can't steal from, lie to and manipulate evolved or mentally strong citizens. Keeping people away from painful and challenging situations, which help them grow and strengthen....ensures they always stay easily ruled children in adult bodies.

Pain is part of the natural GPS system in all human bodies. Pain means you need to change, in order to avoid the pain. Changing means evolution, progression, advancement and increased personal empowerment. Pain means you take your natural rite of passage from child to adult. A society of adults are harder to rule. A society of infantilized nonthreats, of adult age, are easy to govern. That's why the corrupt government wants to block pain at every turn because by doing so they block change.....and they also block public strength. If you don't change, you always stay as a mentally dependent infant, which means you're easier to rule, dominate, govern, steal from, lie to, control and manipulate.

Government is obviously in the business of governing and farming humans. If you're weak, dependent, childlike and you never take your painful rite of passage from child to adult (because you've been taught to run away from pain, instead of running into it).......it's a complete win for the corrupt forces who masquerade as our altruistic governments. Pain is a guardian, not a goblin. If you need a pill, drug or safe space every time you're in pain.......you stay a child forever. This is why the ancient ruling families, who masquerade as your altruistic governments.... maintain a steady flood of pain killing pills, drugs and safe spaces into their human farming operations.

This "avoid pain at all costs mind control program" is insidious and riddled throughout the very fabric of North American life. Most people can't see it because it's everywhere and nowhere, all at the same time. Just look at the way the average person deals with a hangover. The pain in the body is there to send the message, "you need to change paths, you're drinking poison, you're killing yourself, you're going in the wrong life direction" but inside our inverted society no one wants to hear this valuable message from the pain teacher.....which will always end with a much better life, long term. The people who are afraid to look in the mirror and see the immature child in the reflection... simply pop a Tylenol and keep moving further into an empty and soulless existence.

Some people are depressed because they work jobs they don't enjoy; they use their mouths as garbage compactors, and they interact with the world as perpetual dependent infants. Those depressed people, who are depressed for a reason, are told to "take a pill, avoid your pain, don't listen to the message, don't change, keep doing what makes you depressed, take these toxic pills, which have increased depression and suicide as listed side effects." None of this cycle makes any sense of course but you need to be a fully functional empowered and independent adult to see these truths. These illogical cycles have as their basic foundation "pain is bad, avoid pain, pain is a goblin, pain means you're broken and defective, run from your pain and ignore the message that the pain teacher brings." It's a stupid way to address pain because it only brings more pain.

The misleaders on the TV screens and the professional liars in $3000 suits (who rule us from high atop the corrupt ruling pyramid)....know all this and program us this way purposely, in order that we stay easily ruled slaves. If you think pain is a goblin and you always run from it, it means you'll never mature and you're going to be the perfect slave from cradle to grave.

Many people keep walking the left-hand path in life (warned about in biblical scripture) because they've been mentally mind controlled to want nothing to do with their own pain, which is actually half of the natural adaptation system that has always protected us for our entire time here on this planet. As we walked through the jungle 1000 years ago, processing pain properly was the only thing that actually kept us alive. Feeling pain, remembering pain and reacting to pain is the primary survival system we're all born with. Avoiding and ignoring pain (1000 years ago) means we're going to get bitten by every spider, crocodile and killer hornet in the jungle. Pain is our teacher, which helps us draw out a road map of success we can follow. If we don't feel our pain, we lose that road map to our best life.

Avoiding pain means we're going to usually die a painful and premature death because our natural protection system has been taken offline. If we don't feel your pain, how are we going to learn what to do and what not to do? The government crime syndicate wants us to believe that pain is something to avoid because when we avoid pain, we become listless and easier to manipulate. If we think pain is bad and something to avoid, we'll never learn right from wrong and we won't know the left-hand path from the right-hand path in life. People on the left-hand path are takers, manipulators and followers. People on the right-hand path are providers, value creators and leaders. We all eventually leave the left-hand path by first walking it. We then feel the pain involved with making those bad left hand path decisions and then we come back onto the right-hand path for good. If we refuse to feel our pain, this process of bettering our lives isn't available to us.

Although we don't live in a jungle today, there are still many things we need to avoid (like corrupt government, media, medicine and science) during our day-to-day lives.....so we don't end up an absolute human mess. If we avoid pain, like my client was doing, we only get more pain. Pain is a guardian, not a goblin, and pain has the most valuable messages for us.....regarding moving toward a happy and healthy existence. Most humans self-sabotaging today do so because they've been programmed to run away from pain, before the pain delivers them the only message that could ever make their lives better.

So back to my self-sabotaging client, who was in pain because he wasn't listening to his pain. He had a girlfriend who was also programmed to avoid her pain. In a society full of people taught to avoid their pain, many of these folks pair up and self-sabotage their relationships into nothingness. His girlfriend had low self-esteem, which caused her immense pain but she didn't want to listen to her pain either....so she did everything she could to rid herself of that pain. Her main adaptation to low self-esteem and the pain that low self-esteem brought her......was to constantly seek the attention energy of other men, whenever possible.

Unfortunately, this lady was a black hole of attention and adoration. The attention provided to her would travel in one side and right out the other because no one else can fill your voids. That job is your own. There was never enough attention in the room to fill her low self-esteem because when you avoid pain, nothing ever changes and nothing is ever fixed long term. The attention of others was her drug, which she used to avoid her immense pain. To add insult to injury, she would constantly seek the attention of other men, even when she was inside current relationships. She always had 2-3 men on the go simultaneously. To say her life was a complete disaster, because she was avoiding the work she really needed to do inside of herself, would be the understatement of the century. My client, who was her primary partner, was just as messy and just as addicted to avoiding his pain. Between them, it was the pain avoidance Olympics, and everyone was losing.

This cycle terrified my client (the boyfriend) and put him in plenty of pain. Girlfriends were supposed to be loyal according to societal norms, his girlfriend wasn't and this put in him in constant fear. He was confused, in doubt and was in a perpetual panic of sorts. These are just different words that describe pain. When he would confront his girlfriend regarding her constant "outside the relationship" activities of consuming male energy as her pain killing drug, she would lie.......in order to avoid more pain for herself and to reduce his pain as well. She avoided pain as a sport but so did my client.

She was avoiding her pain and even though the relationship was terrible, my client didn't want to face more pain by doing what was right.....and leave the relationship. It was all wretch and no vomit, it could never get there for either of them. For them to stay together, it would be like trying to staple water to a tree. It would just never work. People this immature can never find happiness together, it's impossible. They would need to face their respective pain separately in order to mature into fully functional empowered adults. After that, maybe then they could become mature enough to have a stable relationship with someone else.... maybe.

For these two pain avoidance specialists, reality was out and pain killing illusions were the order of the day. That's the odd part of this entire disastrous cycle, it starts and ends with everyone avoiding pain, in order that more pain be created long term. Again, my client was no better than his pain avoiding girlfriend. His girlfriend would lie right to his face and tell him that he had nothing to worry about and that everything was fine, which took away his pain for about 24 hours. After 24 hours passed......the pain started again because the pain teacher was being ignored. There was always something to worry about because no lessons were being learned and logged. My client just didn't want to face his pain and deal with leaving the relationship, once and for all. Do you see the cycle? No one wanted to deal with their pain and listen to the message, in order to evolve into full-functional empowered adults, so that the pain would eventually go away, and happiness could finally set up shop. Short term pain avoidance guarantees long term pain accumulation.

Eventually my client started to have his own affairs, in order to take away his pain, which brought his pain to a super nova level.....because there was nothing on the planet that could take away the pain of his overall situation. After his affairs, the pain teacher yelled so loud that he was forced to finally listen to the message that only the pain teacher can bring. You only get more of what you're avoiding. My client was in so much pain, he was finally ready to end the relationship and face even greater pain, inside his journey to healing. He wasn't happy and he needed to move ahead into the storm.

I was happy he was finally ready to have tea with the pain teacher. I told my client firmly, "sit with the pain, don't avoid it, don't sedate to it, don't tranquilize to it, don't call your girlfriend when she's out and ask her to lie to you, call off your affairs immediately right now regardless of the pain it causes everyone involved, face the pain, invite the pain in, have tea with the pain, ask the pain for the message that only it can deliver, let the pain guide you, pain isn't a goblin, it's a guardian, sit with the pain for 1 full week without trying to run from it, I'll be back". 1 week later I returned and asked, "what did the pain teacher tell you?" and he said, "the pain teacher said that I can ask my girlfriend to face her pain and evolve or I will face mine and move forward without her" and I replied "yes, pain is there to help you move forward, evolve and progress. Never avoid it." And just like that, his self-sabotage cycle was over. He politely asked his girlfriend to address her pain and evolve, in order that they could evolve as a couple. If she didn't want to, he would face even more pain and evolve himself....and he would end the relationship. It was that simple. Either way, peace was going to be the long-term outcome.

UPDATE - I wrote this article over 1 year ago and I can tell you that the relationship ended, with extreme pain for both parties. They both faced their pain after the breakup and evolved up the maturation ladder. My client is now living an amazing life. He has found someone he truly loves, and his new partner truly loves him. He's very happy and he's very thankful he decided to invite the pain teacher in for some tea. His ex-girlfriend also evolved after the breakup, realizing some of her patterns and is now in her own more stable relationship with a great man. She is enjoying this new relationship much more than any other relationship in her life. Facing your pain works. 

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